Worth Reading
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie is a classic self-help book that offers valuable insights on interpersonal relationships and effective communication. Here are some key learnings from the book:
1. Show genuine interest: One of the most important principles emphasized in the book is to show genuine interest in others. By listening actively, asking meaningful questions, and focusing on the other person's perspective, you can build stronger connections and foster better relationships.
2. Appreciate and praise others: Carnegie highlights the power of appreciation and sincere praise. Acknowledging people's efforts and achievements can go a long way in making them feel valued and respected, leading to improved relationships and increased motivation.
3. Avoid criticism and condemnation: The book suggests that criticizing and condemning others is not an effective way to influence them. Instead, Carnegie advises adopting a more understanding and empathetic approach. By providing constructive feedback and addressing concerns in a positive manner, you can achieve better results and maintain harmonious relationships.
4. Be a good listener: Active listening is a skill emphasized throughout the book. Carnegie stresses the importance of giving your undivided attention to others, being empathetic, and allowing them to express themselves. This practice helps establish trust, understanding, and deeper connections.
5. Win others to your point of view: Rather than trying to impose your opinions on others, the book suggests finding common ground and understanding their perspectives. By empathizing with their viewpoints and communicating your ideas respectfully, you increase the likelihood of influencing them positively.
6. Smile and show appreciation: Carnegie highlights the impact of a genuine smile and a positive attitude. Smiling can create a welcoming environment and make others feel at ease. Additionally, expressing gratitude and appreciation can further strengthen relationships and motivate others to collaborate with you.
These key learnings from "How to Win Friends and Influence People" offer valuable insights into building meaningful relationships, effective communication, and positively influencing others. Applying these principles can help improve both personal and professional interactions.

Ten Abilities of a Prophet
1. See Visions (Numbers 12:6)
2. Dream dreams (Numbers 12:6)
3. Declare (1Samuel 3:19)
4. Ordain (1Samuel 10:1; 1Samuel 16:13)
5. Hear God's Voice (Revelations 2:7)
6. Carry God's Presence (Exodus 33:7)
7. Live a Holy life (Ecclesiastes 9:8)
8. Heal the sick (2Kings 5:1-)
9. Can intersceed (Ezekiel 33:7)
10. Get Revelations (1Chorinthians 2:9&1

The pain of WAITING Or The pain of REGRET?
Yesterday, a married woman boldly texted me that she regrets her 16 months marriage, and she regrets the decision she made. She admonished me to write about it to educate people if I will.
She was in her late thirties when she met him. And because she's waited for so long, she had no option than to accept anyone. Immediate gratification without thinking of tomorrow, and today she's in the pain of regret. The man she married is the opposite of what she thought.
This made me remember the story of the Israelites,
Moses went up to be with God; to bring the ten commandments. The children of Israel waited. They waited, and lost it. They made a golden calf with their jewelleries, and worshipped it.
From worshipping God to worshipping a graven image of a calf.
God was angry. God wanted to destroy them because of their folly. Moses came down the mountain, and out of anger, destroyed the tablets of 10 commandments.
The Israelites were in pains of regret.
See,
When waiting becomes so long, we get tired.
Waiting to get married.
Waiting to get a job.
Waiting for a miracle.
Waiting to be successful.
We get tired of the pain of waiting.
We bring down our standards and settle for less..
Desperation sets in.
Then, it happens that after immediate gratification, we regret in the long run. The pain of regret sets in.
Truth is; we will always be in pain.
But it's better to be in the pain of waiting, than the pain of regret.
The pain of waiting; long suffering; endurance, ends with success.
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. (Jeremiah 29:11)
The problem is not that we can't get what we want. The problem is that we are too impatient to get it. Patience is painful I know.
But no matter how impatient you are, you cannot get a baby in a month by impregnating 9 women.
You must wait. The pain of waiting is better than the pain of regret. Don't let this wanting to get married thing to drive you into depression. Satan's gimmick to really frustrate you is to be in your face daily with thoughts, worries and ultimately, depression. Once you're that unsettled, you lose the capacity to be led by God and you can no longer see his plans no matter how apparent he makes them- Anxiety blinds! Waiting on God isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it.
In waiting on God for the right person, your biggest test is how you will have to keep saying NO to all the wrong ones. Marital decisions are not meant to be emotional. The human Emotions are just too fickle to be trusted. You need to first discern them. You can be emotional and wrong. Marriage is not hard, but if you choose the wrong person, it will no doubt be very hard. The wrong person doesn't always come with obvious horns, they come as wolves in sheep clothing and need to be discerned for you to disarm them. The wrong person is the one that God warns you about with those signs and red flags but whom you're settling for either because you have been together for long or you're afraid of remaining single or for the fear of starting all over. Sadly, most failed and bad marriages today were birthed by relationships that should have been broken and not lead to marriage. It's better to remain single for long than to rush into a marriage of regret. So, you first of all have to be content remaining single until someone comes who is worth giving your future to. You also need to be comfortable with saying 'NO' to everyone who isn't the future. You'll say many No's in life. Who you marry is the experience you think you deserve. So When choosing a life partner, remember that you deserve to be happy!

11 Emotional Intelligence Is The Key To Success
Since we cannot live a life independent of our emotions, the higher our emotional intelligence, the higher our quality of life will be. We know that successful managers are experts in managing their emotional intelligence. You can also take them as an example.
12 Leadership
A commander cannot direct an entire army by saying “we are going to war”. You can’t manage a team by just saying what to do. You need to understand your team’s current feelings and level of motivation. You should encourage them to work. You have to use your emotional intelligence for all of these.
13 Teams
Average talent teams that get along well with each other are more productive than gifted teams that don’t get along. It doesn’t matter how well a team with low emotional intelligence is in control of the numbers. They can’t even decide what to try to do.
14 Stress
Difficulties at work and in our relationships put us under stress. Stress makes it difficult for us to find solutions to problems. When we can’t find solutions to problems, we get more stressed. To get rid of this dead end, we need to know how to manage our stressful situations.
15 Marriage
The secret of long and happy marriages is sincerity in your feelings. If your marriage was not built on this basis of intimacy from the very beginning, it will begin to crack over the years. Even small problems become unsolvable. You have to be emotionally open at the beginning of the road.
16 Leadership
Leadership does not mean dominance. Leading your colleagues to a common goal and making them believe in the reality of this purpose. Successful leaders are those who can keep their team’s motivation alive for many years. You have to make them desire the work to be done.
17 Emotions Are All Normal
Anger, hatred, love, happiness… You can understand when and under what circumstances these feelings will emerge by following yourself. You may have these feelings depending on how you interpret the events you encounter. The important thing is to be able to react independently of your feelings. You may find yourself making promises that you cannot keep because you are happy, or you may resort to violence when you are angry.
18/ Being able to Express Your Emotions
Not everyone’s level of empathy can be very good. You may be in a difficult situation immediately. You may feel bad, but people may not understand it. In these situations, you may need to express your feelings a little more directly.
19/You Are Not Your Emotions
Keep doing what you need to do, no matter how you feel. Success is achieved by people who cannot give up no matter what their feelings and thoughts are. Don’t let your feelings affect your actions.
20/ Timing
As soon as you feel a different emotion, try to think before you act. Because emotional intelligence moves faster than rational intelligence, it can make you act irrationally and make you say any unnecessary words.

𝟐𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 -"𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 "
1/ Rational and Emotional.
It is mentioned in the book that there are two different bits of intelligence. Throughout our lives, we make decisions by being influenced by these two types of intelligence. Who we are, what we do, our reactions depend entirely on it. The underlying reason for our very clever actions or our irrational but feel-good behaviors depends on these two types of intelligence.
2 / IQ Isn’t As Important As We Think
IQ can’t get you beyond being a good employee. It makes you graduate from school, but it can’t find you a job. When you go to the job interview, your diploma cannot answer the questions during the interview. You need to have good communication with the person who will hire you. It all depends on your emotional intelligence.
3 Areas of Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is responsible for our motivation, awareness, empathy, and relationships. They’re all interconnected, and if you’re bad at one, you’re more likely to be bad at the others.
4 The Emotional Brain Is Stronger
The outer upper part of our brain is the part where we make rational decisions, while the lower part is the part where we make emotional decisions. No matter how rational beings we may appear, we can very easily be deceived by the emotional brain. We can find excuses to trick the rational brain into doing what the emotional brain wants.
5 Others’ Feelings
Thanks to our empathy, we can truly understand how others are feeling. If we could not distinguish between happy or angry people, there would be incredible chaos. Beyond these two basic emotions, we must develop an ability to empathize. In the absence of empathy, our communication aspect is affected very badly.
6 Motivation
Our motivation, which enables us to endure the problems we face for a long time, is also a product of emotional intelligence. We can convince ourselves that we can solve problems. We can remain optimistic and have hope for the future.
7 Awareness
One of our most difficult aspects to develop is our awareness. We must practice understanding how we truly feel. We must ask ourselves questions. We must listen to ourselves.
8 Relationships
Relationships cannot be let go. It must be managed. This requires mutual tolerance and understanding. If you know how to resolve conflicts, it turns into a happy relationship for both parties.
9 Negative and Positive Emotions
Our emotions change every moment, but the longer negative emotions stay, the more negatively they affect our lives. It prevents us from being successful in our work and relationships. Fortunately, these feelings are not difficult to change. You can learn to turn negative emotions into positive ones.
10 Productivity
When your emotional intelligence gets stronger, your creativity starts to increase. Regardless of your field of work, you will start to see serious differences in your productivity. It will increase your performance. Longer hours allow you to work with the same efficiency.

𝟏𝟎 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐀 𝐌𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬" 𝐛𝐲 𝐎𝐦 𝐒𝐰𝐚𝐦𝐢.
1.Compassion is the key to unlocking the power of love.
When we learn to love others unconditionally, we can experience a profound sense of joy and fulfillment.
2. Meditation is not just about sitting in silence.
It's about becoming more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and sensations and learning to be more present.
3. Happiness is not something that can be chaser or acquired. It's already within you. You need to remove the layers that are covering it up.
4. True success is not about accumulating material wealth or power. It's about living a meaningful life that benefits others.
5. Your thoughts are like the seeds you sow.
If you sow positive thoughts, you'll reap positive results.
But if you sow negative thoughts, you'll only reap negativity.
The choice is yours.
6. The mind is like a garden.
If you cultivate it well, it will blossom with flowers of happiness and joy.
But if you neglect it, weeds of negativity and misery will grow instead.
7. Self-awareness is the key to personal growth and transformation.
When we become more aware of our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, we can make positive changes in our lives.
8. The only way to achieve lasting happiness is to cultivate deep gratitude for everything in your life, good and bad.
9. Fear is just an illusion created by the mind. When we learn to face and overcome our fears, we can experience a newfound sense of freedom and confidence.
10. Forgiveness is not about forgetting what someone has done to you. It's about releasing yourself from the pain and anger that holding onto that hurt has caused.

Apostle Joshua Selman
Many people today, I tell you, those who are some of the chiefest advocates of an antichrist life, where once in church.
They will tell you, when was God when this was happening to me..
Where was God when I was losing my job..
Where was God when I was fasting and praying.
I know a lady who died 2days before her wedding, after waiting for many years. Had bought all the things needed. I heard the guy collapse too, whether he died or not, I don't know. Don't tell me that's the will of God. The will of God is very clear from scripture.
How about someone who built a house and just at the point when they are preparing for the thanksgiving, he start coughing out blood. What is happening? They say something has been wrong in your system for the last 5years, you have only 6months to live.
In the name of Jesus, I speak over someone, whatever that will make you labour for nothing, whatever that will make it look that God is not real in your life, I EXEMPT YOU FROM IT RIGHT NOW...
True story.. They were looking for an armed robber around the airport, and somebody was travelling and they just saw the person photo looking like the armed robber they are looking for. You know how they type it in their computer and there is a percentage of resemblance or so, and that one seem very high. That's was how they stopped him.
He said, am a responsible gentle man.. they said "keep quiet, when you get to where we are taking you, you can explain whether you are a pastor or missionary but for now follow us........IS THAT NOT WICKEDNESS, ARE YOU THE ONE WHO CREATED YOUR FACE?
Somebody that looks like you stole and now they caught you for it...
YOU WILL NOT ENTER ANOTHER MAN'S PIT IN JESUS NAME!
#naji

BECOMING A BETTER HUMAN BEING
1-Be who you want to see in others. Be real and honest about who you are.
2-Treat everyone with kindness and respect. Don't belittle or place anyone on a pedestal. We are all humans!
3- Recognize your flaws and shortcomings. Be self-aware and challenge yourself to grow.
4-Recognize your strengths and talents. Every human being has value and can contribute to something.
5- Learn from your mistakes. Forgive yourself. Don’t become a victim of your circumstances. Get up and glow, it's the best form of "revenge" and self-care.
6- Accept constructive criticism, even when it's unsolicited. You don't have to agree with it, but listening with an open mind can help you approach yourself and your life in new ways.
7 - Apologize when you’re wrong. Don't make excuses to justify your hurtful actions. Be humble not prideful.
8- Educate yourself everyday and let others educate you too. We all can learn from each other. Nobody knows and is right about everything.
9- Don’t just forget all the good someone has done to you when they hurt you. Look at the good they once did too.
10- Remember that self-improvement isn’t about reaching perfection. You will make many mistakes, you will be tested, you will fall short, but the most important thing is to keep getting back up.

Beat the Odds - DR. MYLES MUNROE
I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world (John 16:33).
Men and women who make changes in history are those who have come against the odds and told the odds it is impossible for the odds to stop them. Don’t throw yourself away—don’t let anyone else throw you away because you are up against some odds.
The minute we see somebody in a wheelchair something hap-pens to us. We think the person is half a person. We almost treat him as if we apologize for his condition. We look at people who are blind...who have a withered hand...who walk with a limp...who have only one arm as though they are half a person. We limit their potential to the wheelchair or the limp or the missing hand or the short arm. We reduce everybody to their bodies. You are not your body. Some of the greatest minds in the world are in wheelchairs.
I think about President Roosevelt in a wheelchair. Did you ever think an invalid could be the president of one of the greatest nations on earth?
Suppose you end up in a wheelchair next year with all the brains you have right now. Will you quit? Is your dream related to your body? Don’t say “no” too fast. Some of you would just quit and get totally depressed and so sad. You’d say, “Oh, life didn’t work out for me,” and you’d allow all the dreams you have right now to die in the chair. You’d simply quit.
Don’t give up because you are physically handicapped. Don’t give up if you are facing great odds. Your potential is not determined by whether you can see the fine print of a book, walk across the street or lift heavy objects with both hands. Your potential is not destroyed because your mother is an alcoholic, your father’s a junkie or you have no parents at all. There are many people in wheelchairs who have given up. There are many people who come from the wrong side of town or a bad family situation who have given up. Don’t be one of them. Beat the odds.

IN THAT MARRIAGE SORRY HOLDS NO WEIGHT WHEN THERE IS NO CHANGE OF BEHAVIOR.
John 8:10-11
A Genuine Apology Must Involve a Change in Behavior: Do not take your spouse’s grace, mercy, and forgiveness for granted. Grace is free but not cheap. The casual repeated verbal utterance of apologies without genuine inward contrition and heartfelt repentance and change only cheapens grace. A genuine apology and true remorse lie in the readiness and willingness to alter the very behaviors, actions and attitudes that led to the offense, guaranteeing that such behaviors will not be repeated. Sorry holds no weight unless accompanied by a tangible change of behavior and a sincere deep desire for change. While humanity is prone to err, to persist in the same mistakes one has been forgiven is nothing short of folly. When Jesus forgave he often commanded, 'Go and sin no more.'" When your spouse has forgiven you, go and sin no more. MAY GOD HELP US IN JESUS NAME 🙏🙏🙏