𝟏𝟎 𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐈𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐲 𝐍𝐢𝐫 𝐄𝐲𝐚𝐥

1. The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.
2. Most people don’t want to acknowledge the uncomfortable truth that distraction is always an unhealthy escape from reality.
3. Dissatisfaction and discomfort dominate our brain’s default state, but we can use them to motivate us instead of defeat us.
4. We can cope with uncomfortable internal triggers by reflecting on, rather than reacting to, our discomfort. We can reimagine the task we’re trying to accomplish by looking for the fun in it and focusing on it more intensely.
5. Only by understanding our pain can we control it and find better ways to deal with negative urges.
6. Ten-minute rule:
"If I want to check my phone as a pacification device when I can’t think of anything better to do, I tell myself it’s fine to give in, but not right now. I have to wait just ten minutes."
7. At the heart of the therapy is learning to notice and accept one’s cravings and to handle them healthfully. Instead of suppressing urges, ACT prescribes a method for stepping back, noticing, observing, and finally letting the desire disappear naturally.
8. Empowering children with the autonomy to control their time is a tremendous gift. Failure is part of the learning process, even if they fail occasionally.
9. The better we are at noticing the behavior, the better we’ll manage it over time.
10. Being indestructible means striving to do what you say you will do. Indestructible people are as honest with themselves as they are with others. You must learn how to become indestructible if you care about your work, family, and physical and mental well-being.

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7 Lessons From Rules of Life by Richard Templar

1. You’ll Get Older But Not Necessarily Wiser
There is an assumption that as we get older we will get wiser; not true. But we can carry on being just as foolish, still making plenty of mistakes. It’s just that we make new ones, different ones. We do learn from experience and may not make the same mistakes again, but there is a whole new pickle jar of fresh ones just lying in wait for us to trip up and fall into. The secret is to accept this and not to beat yourself up when you do make new ones. The Rule really is: Be kind to yourself when you do muck things up. Be forgiving, and accept that it’s all part of that growing older but no wiser routine.

2. Accept What Is Done Is Done
People make mistakes. Sometimes very serious ones. As often as not, the mistakes aren’t deliberate or personal. Sometimes people just don’t know what they are doing. This means that if, in the past, people have behaved badly toward you, it wasn’t necessarily because they meant to be horrid, but because they were as naïve, as foolish, as human as the rest of us. They made mistakes in the way they brought you up or finished a relationship with you or whatever, not because they wanted to do it that way, but because they didn’t know any different.
Let go of any feelings of resentment, of regret, of anger. You can accept that you are a fabulous human being because of all the bad things that have happened to you, not in spite of them. What is done is done, and you need to just get on with your life. Don’t use the labels “good” and “bad.”

3. Accept Yourself
You can’t go back and change anything, so you’ve got to work with what you’ve got. Accepting is easy because it is exactly what it says—accepting. You don’t have to improve or change or strive for perfection. Quite the opposite. Just accept.
That means accepting all the warts and emotional lumps and bumps, the bad parts, the weaknesses, and the rest of it. This doesn’t mean we are happy with everything about ourselves, or that we are going to be lazy and lead a bad life. We are going to accept the way we are, initially, and then build on that. What we are not going to do is beat ourselves up because we don’t like some parts.

4. Know What Counts and What Doesn’t
Being here counts. Being kind and considerate counts. Getting through each day without seriously offending anyone or hurting anyone counts. Having the latest technology doesn’t. Doing something useful with your life counts. There are some things in this life that are important and a whole lot of things that aren’t.

5. Be Flexible in Your Thinking
Once your thinking gets crystallized, rigid, and formed, you’ve lost the battle. Once you think you have all the answers, you might as well hang up your boots. Once you get set in your ways, you’re already part of history.

6. Be Your Own Adviser
Deep down within all of us is a fount of wisdom. This is called intuition. Listening to your intuition is a slow-learned process.

7. Don’t Expect to Be Perfect
You’re allowed to be human, you know. In fact, you’re actively encouraged to be human. Don’t try to set yourself above everyone else—the rest of us fail from time to time.

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Dear Brethren,

There is nothing wrong with Love, for God is LOVE.

There is nothing wrong with marriage, for God is the bearer of MATRIMONY.

It is the wrong decision you made that is backfiring!

It is the wrong decisions you keep making in that relationship or marriage with the right person that's backfiring.

Yes! You can be with the right person and it will still end in premium tears if you keep making bad decisions in the relationship or marriage.

The decision not to forgive.
The decision not to understand.
The decision to be impatient.
The decision to starve your partner of attention.
The decision to be an adulterous woman or a community pènis.
The decision not to do away with your hot Temper.
The decision to be jealous.
The decision to not chase communication.
The decision to not build on intimacy.
The decision to not make your relationship with God intentional.

You'll keep changing relationship like diaper.
The marriage will still fail.

You can have the right person and ruin the relationship. Some people feel that having such a great person is all it takes to make a marriage work. No matter how right someone is for you, if you lack maturity, you'll destroy it. Marriage is work even with the right person.

What God has joined together can still be assundered by your wrong decisions coupled with your stubbornness.

Stubbornness to apologise.
Stubbornness to take correction.
Stubbornness to make peace.
Stubbornness to win an argument at the cost of the other person's peace.
Stubbornness to work on yourself.
Stubbornness to make efforts to change.

Stubbornness can upset the plans of God for your marriage, gross stubbornness.

Many times it is not that you're unlucky in a relationship, it is because you don't know a good thing when you see one.

Many times there are no witches or village people anywhere chasing the joy in your marriage, the evil Spirit is you, yourself and yours.

HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF

(1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you.

(2) Stop begging.

(3) Stop saying more than is necessary.

(4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

(5) Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.

(6) Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't reciprocate it.

(7) Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

(8) Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

(9) Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

(1 Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

(11) Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals.

(12) Respect your time.

(13) Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away.

(14) Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you.

(15) Be scarce sometimes.

(16) Be a giver more than a receiver.

(17) Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome.

(18) Treat people exactly the way they deserve.

(19) Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.

(2 Be good at what you do. Be the best.

MARRIAGE IS GIVE AND TAKE

1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband
2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband
3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances
4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meeting
5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend
6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood
7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband
8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him
9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly
10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time
11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids
12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments
13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband
14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves
15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband
16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty
17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her
18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together
Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage.
Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own.

Greetings to all submissive Women

A GOOD WOMAN BUILDS HER OWN HOME