How to Spot The Right Man For Marriage
Will be coming on spotting the right woman. This is long but worth it for a lady who doesn't want to make a mistake or end up in divorce. First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking.

And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one. "What about love? Shouldn't that be the third? you ask.

No, and I'll tell you why. "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jer. 17:9). The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda.

It does not consider things rationally and intelligently--it just loves to love! Therefore, you have to point it in the right directions: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Prov. 4:23).

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data.

I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship, and then marriage. Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.

Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively--it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar.

It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage. But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather facts:

1. Check out the fabric.
Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith?

Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family--the family of God?

Scripture is clear on this: "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Cor. 6:14).

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things.

You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues. You have had like experiences in your background.Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.

Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time. Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife.

Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.

2. Does this man want you?
Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear.

No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends. Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (Prov. 18:22).

Note--who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together.

At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate.

Adam had no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy!

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand.

If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested. Many a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him.

HOW SOON SHOULD A LADY SAY YES TO A MAN'S MARRIAGE PROPOSAL? Some ladies keep asking me how soon they are to give a man a response to his marriage proposal.

As soon as you know the answer of course.
There is no point asking him to wait for years on end so you won't appear cheap. It doesn't make any sense!

If you need to pray, tell him so and the answer to your prayers shouldn't take up to 3 months unless your relationship with God is dead and buried. If not, a week maximum is okay. God is not deaf and dumb!

He heard your prayers and gave you your answer. You are the one who is not picking. Some people are spiritually hard of hearing and need spiritual surgery to get the ears opened.

God speaks all the time and He doesn't waste time giving answers. All these "I have been praying for decades but He is not speaking." Is calling God a liar! He spoke. You are the one who didn't hear!

Once a man is sending you signal, start praying. I gave my husband a no wasting time YES on the spot because I knew before he proposed he is my husband. I don't like someone wasting my time so I didn't waste his.

Guys should not waste time on ladies who enjoy wasting men's time! Don't waste a man's time because you are praying and fasting. 3 months of waiting on God is okay! God has spoken!

Open your ears and let the message enter!
Do not accept a proposal because the guy said he heard God. Go and hear God by yourself and don't be stupid! Any devil can come claiming he heard God.

Ladies should not throw away their brain because someone proposed! Do not let any man rush you into giving an answer when you are not yet sure what the answer is either! Be balanced. Locate wisdom. Swallow it and apply it.

If your answer to a proposal is NO please, for God's sake, make it easy for the brother to save face by being polite. It is not easy to propose and get rejected.

Being rude doesn't make you virtuous, it makes you unattractive! Humble and polite women are super attractive all the time. Once again. Saying YES on the spot doesn't make you cheap and desperate.

It means you know exactly want you want and you are confident enough to go for it. Men admire confident women. May the good Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

Here are 10 lessons from the book The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg:

1. Habits are powerful forces that shape our lives. They can help us achieve our goals or hold us back from success.

2. Habits are formed by a three-step loop: cue, routine, and reward. The cue is a trigger that tells our brains to go into automatic mode. The routine is the behavior we perform. The reward is what we get out of the behavior.

3. Once a habit is formed, it can be very difficult to change. This is because the brain creates a neural pathway for the habit. The more we repeat the habit, the stronger the neural pathway becomes.

4. However, it is possible to change habits. The key is to identify the cue and reward for the habit you want to change. Once you know what triggers the habit and what you get out of it, you can start to create a new habit loop.

5. **One way to change a habit is to ** insert a new routine into the habit loop. This can be done by making small changes to the cue or reward. For example, if you want to stop eating junk food, you could start by putting it out of sight. This will make it less likely that you will be triggered to eat it.

6. **Another way to change a habit is to ** make the new routine more attractive. This can be done by making it more rewarding or by making it easier to do. For example, if you want to start exercising, you could make a deal with a friend to go to the gym together. This will make it more likely that you will actually go.

7. It is important to be patient when trying to change a habit. It can take weeks or even months to break a bad habit and form a new one. Don't give up if you don't see results immediately.

8. It is also important to be kind to yourself. Changing habits is hard work. Don't beat yourself up if you slip up. Just pick yourself up and start again.

9. Finally, remember that you are not alone. Everyone struggles with habits. There are many resources available to help you change your habits.

10. **The most important thing is to ** never give up. If you keep trying, you will eventually succeed.

I hope these lessons help you on your journey to creating better habits.

There's no relationship that is perfect.
We may seem happy and all, but we do have ups and downs. We fight almost each and everyday,but we try and overcome all those obstacles.

There's no time to be jumping from one relationship to another, it can be seriously draining. Try to make your relationship work. I'm not saying tolerate nonsense,

But if you see that your partner is also trying, meet them halfway. All relationships go through hell, but real ones get through it.

APOSTLE JOHNSON SULEMAN'S TESTIMONY ABOUT PROPHET WILLIAM BRANHAM

I was watching William Braham sermon one day and he said the longest fast he had ever fasted was 3days, i was angry, because at that period i can fast,
I fast! fast!! fast!!!
I fasted so much that i couldn’t wear my normal cloths again, but there are so many strange dimensions of God’s grace that was made known on earth through the ministry of William braham, he operated strange dimensions.

One day, William Branham was in a car and the engine of the car knocked and he said; Lord Jesus, Let there be a brand new engine, the mechanic had gone to town to repair and make some important repairs but before he came back, The Urim & The Thummim, a brand new engine working perfectly and effectively had been released, now imagine such a dimension just by 3days fasting???

Another time, he likes to hunt, he’s at times a hunter, so one day Williams Branham went to the bush, all the animals had ganged up and non was available, and he was confused, what is he going to give his wife; just at that point, he requested, Lord Jesus, let there be squirrel and the squirrel appeared!
Now what i have come to understand about this dimensions of Power manifestation is that, it is a creative realm.

Its beyond the blind seeing, the lame walking, its much more than all of that, its a very creative realm.

That is the class of God, like the bible says God declared “Let there be light and there was light! so i decided am going to watch him and know his secret because 3days fasting can not produce this dimensions, in my findings i discover he lived right; and he was always alone, The Urim & The Thummim, he does not mix with people, sometimes he would lock up himself for 4days he is eating, praying, worshiping God, serving God, alone, and at times when he have programs to be held in few weeks times, he goes to the bush, make burn fire, roast animals, serve and worship God, he often disconnect from people to connect with God.

And I was able to discover that the easiest way to get close to God is to get away from people.

I have been able to imbibe this nature, to walk with God, you must spend more time with him and less time with people, you can never walk in the power of God having too many friends.

God is a spirit and they that worship him must worship him in the spirit and in truth; so you can’t be in the spirit often like it is expected of you when you are always with men.

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DEAR HUSBAND,
4 TIMES YOUR WIFE NEEDS YOU MORE

We all know that Women are emotional creatures, they need special attention and to be handled with understanding as peculiar vessels.
But in certain times, they become even more emotional and thus require even more TLC.

Read on
Four times every Wife needs her Husband More.

1) WHEN SHE IS PREGNANT.

Haaaaaa
When a woman is pregnant, is not a small something oh,
she can become really problematic, permit me to put it that way)

From what she wants to do, how she wants to be touched, where she wants to be touched, what she wants to eat (from funny to weird cravings), to how she wants you to scratch her back in the middle of the night,when a woman is pregnant, it's not her fault, even she doesn't know why she acts that way,

Hormones and the changes ongoing in her affect her in ways beyond her control and helping,
In such a time you as her Husband will need to put on more

👉 Love
👉 Attention
👉 Care
👉 Patience
👉 Understanding.

If not, you will find yourself like some men insensitively saying to their pregnant wives "are you the first woman to be pregnant, your own is too much Jor"

Always be around your pregnant Wife physically and emotionally, clear your schedule to be around more,
Carrying the baby for the both of you is already putting stress on her, don't let her carry that burden alone.
It's so sad how some Men will abandon their pregnant wives at home and go drinking and clubbing with friends

Sex and sexual activities are not to be neglected just because she is pregnant.
Still play with her.
Your sister coming over to help is nice, but she still wants your assistance than what five sisters will provide.

2) WHEN SHE IS ON HER MENSES

From Mood swings that can swing in any direction, to breast tenderness, to unnecessary emotional displays, to the very physicality of the physical event she is experiencing (blood loss), to the cries and drama associated with the menstrual cramps,

Some Ladies handle this periods better than others.
As a Man, as your wife goes through that period monthly, she'll need you by her side, physically and otherwise, showing her love and care

Menstruation is not Leprosy.

Stop avoiding her because she is menstruating, that's so 1960.

Some Women even crave sexual contact when menstruating.

3) WHEN SHE IS BEREAVED

A Woman handles the loss of a loved one differently from a Man,
She will cry uncontrollably,
She will weep like a little girl

As a Man you may think she is being a drama queen, you may feel irritated or angry, but remember, she is not you, and you are not her.
let her cry, give her her the space and your permission to grieve,

Don't tell her to stop crying,
Give her a shoulder to cry on,
It will make her feel closer to her,

Be understanding, let her know you feel her pain, show empathy especially when she loses someone close to her.

Don't let personal activities make you absent from her in such times, except it is way way beyond your control.

4) WHEN SHE IS UNDER PRESSURE.

Pressure can come from her work place, family, the Kids, pressure from delay in taking in/getting pregnant, from her emotions

When a woman is under pressure, she can suffer a partial complete emotional melt down except someone is there to guide her, assure her, lend her a shoulder to vent and rely on.

She is Married, let her nor face her battles alone.

When she's under pressure, and she's complaining, crying, falling sick, please assure her, calm her down, take some duties off her, let her sleep and rest more..

Take her out, pamper her.

Help her relax.. And see how she'll bounce back stronger and better for you.

If you allow pressure continuously eat at your wife, she'll age quick, she'll be 28 and looking 42..
She'll become more unloving and the home will become unbearable for everybody..
Help yourself by helping her.
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Dear Husband,
God brought her to be a help meet for you.

"Ladies
Pray He Heals From Things He Doesn't Talk About" My Sisters, There Are Things He Goes Through Doesn't Speak About.

Men Go Through Uncertainty & More Painful Things Which Don't Share Anyhow Because The World Has Always Thought & Taught Men To Be Strong. But Trust Me They Need More Of Love Than Criticism.

Sisters Learn To Understand The Importance Of Being His Rest Room, Pillar Of Strength, Source Of Courage & His Firm Foundation Of Happiness & Peace.

Paul prayed and said, May the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ. The Love of God And the Koinonia, The fellowship, The participation, The marriage, The oneness, The intercourse of the Spirit.
Who is the Holy Ghost to you? Listen; Until now Who or what is the Holy spirit to you? Do you know him? Do you even believe in his Person? Do you believe in his Ministry?
Do you know The Holy Ghost took Saul and produce a king out of him? Do you know the Holy Ghost took Deborah and make a Wonder out of her?
Do you know the Holy Ghost turn Jesus (the word) into a baby? He made God become a baby. He’s that powerful. He made God to become A baby and put him in the Womb of a Woman without surgery.

He made Saul the Wonder that he became.
The Holy Ghost made Arch bishop Benson Idahosa, The Holy Ghost took Smith Willsgglesworth From a plumber and made him an Apostle of Faith out of him.
The Holy Ghost took a weak woman like Kathryn Kulman and made a Wonder out of her.
The holy Ghost

REINTRODUCE YOURSELF TO ME DEAR HOLY GHOST || Apostle Joshua Selman

I started my journey with God not looking for fame, not looking for power, not looking for ministry. It was a blind but a sincere pursuit. That if there was more in God, then peradventure my life could be a revelation of that more even to a generation.

I went to church and I found out that while preachers preach, they preach powerful messages and while they were preaching I saw sick people, while they were preaching I saw confused people, oppressed people and yet they open scriptures, they spoke intelligently about the love of God, they spoke articulately about the power of God — His power to heal, to deliver.

And when they share the grace, I saw sick people walking back sick. We ended the average church service like this: May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ we said, then we say the love of God, the fellowship of the Holy Spirit and we confess that it should rest and abide with us and yet people walk as though they were leaving a funeral.

Where was the power, where was the Grace? Something is missing somewhere. I had the opportunity to meet a few veterans of the gospel. I asked them questions about the Holy Spirit. They waved it with some theological answers and I said No, No!
One day I picked a book called God’s Generals. I opened it and couldn’t close it again. It was as though I was reading about my relatives. I said this is it! This is what I’ve been trying to seek. Men who subdued kingdoms, shut the mouth of lions. Then I began to study the history of the church in Nigeria. And I came across strange men like Arch Bishop Benson Idahosa, men who shook this nation. Men like Apostle Babalola who carried power with God. And I said something is wrong with your body oh God.

When did we reduce the power of God and the ministry of the Holy Spirit to a theological decitation? where did we hide the demonstration of His power? We call it the house of God, we claim God is there and yet people come and they are not changed.

Today we have written books about the Holy Spirit and yet we do not know Him. We have organized conferences after His name, yet we do not know Him. We have packed crusade grounds and we’re utterly disappointed. And revealed from our flaws, the disconnect as far as our relationship is with Him. To the point where we do not even know His power again.

We see Him move and we’re not sure He’s the one. And yet I read from scripture and I studied from history that He was the force behind the rising of people. He was the one who lifted politicians like Daniel, lifted men like Joseph, empowered women like Mary, strengthen men like Elijah. How would we want a great destiny ignoring His ministry and presence?

God did not give us a religion, it was an experience — it still is. An experience introducing us to this personality that has been misunderstood. We call Him a bird —He is not a bird. We call Him wind — He’s not wind. We call Him fire — He’s not fire.
The Holy Spirit is God.

Why is He so important that Jesus had to wait for His arrival to begin His ministry. Jesus, the logos of God remained so impotent until He the Holy Ghost arrived. Having mentored His disciples for three and half years, Jesus said, tarry. Do not use zeal to start. Tarry until He comes. He’s so important, wait until He comes.
If everybody that was Rightly used of God happened through the Holy Spirit then even our generation must carry His presence in order to live a life worthy of God’s calling.

Koinonia is a place, where you can meet the Holy Ghost, I met him and He changes my life…
The Holy Ghost wants to re-Introduce himself to people in this place. For many of you who do not know Him, you heard people talking about the Holy Ghost.
He is the one behind the Progress of this ministry. He’s the one behind the anointing, He’s the one behind the Prosperity…
If you stop chasing the things you’re looking for and you find him. He is worth more than Gold and He’s the answer to what you’re looking for.

Everybody Is Trying
To find the right partner, but no one is trying to be the right person. Everybody wants to be in long lasting relationship,

But no one is ready for the bad days, arguments and disagreements. A relationship is more than dates, holding hands and kissing.

It's about accepting each other's weirdness and flaws. It's about being Yourself and finding happiness together. It's about seeing an imperfect person perfectly.

Great relationships are not great because they don't have problems, they're great because both people care enough about each other to find a way to make it work.❤🖤❤️