YOU CAN'T LOVE HIM AND HATE HIS CHURCH!
Church matter is a serious issue when considering a life partner. You must love everything about them if your marriage must run smoothly.
Church doctrines differ. Marry someone whose doctrine you agree with or your house will always be on fire! If you hate the church he attends because of their doctrine, your marriage will hit the rocks!
A person's core belief sharpens his personality and form his character. His church doctrine makes him who he is. To reject his church is to reject him himself! Amos 3:3 states this clearly: "Can two walk together except they agree?" If your spiritual beliefs do not agree and none of you is ready to change, your marriage will end up a war zone!
Some marriages have blown apart because of jewelries or no jewelries, trouser or no trousers. When some people asked me if it is okay to wear trouser, I tell them to follow their church's doctrine. I don't have time for argument on issues like this.
You can't fight your church or Pastor on what they believe is right. Either you accept the doctrine and be a good member of your church or look for a church whose doctrines are compatible with yours, life is as simple as that, it is not complicated at all.
To marry with the hope of changing your spouse is to live in a fool's paradise! People rarely change in marriage! If he cannot sacrifice his church for you now, he won't sacrifice it later!
Wives must submit to their husbands. After marriage, I submitted my dressing, actions, character and attitude to what suits my husband and we are both happy with it. If you know you can't change your life style to please any man, please, don't accept his proposal! It won't be fun if he starts asking you to dress and act in a particular way and you bluntly refuse! Hell fire is for rebellious people. May your attitude not push you into rebellion and into hell!
If that sister hates your church, end the relationship brother, it is not God's will. Amos 3:3 says it all: "Can two walk together except they agree?" May the Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele
